HEAD(hed), (n.) 1. the top part of the human body or the front part of an animal where the eyes, nose, east and mouth are. "Your brain is in your head." DIBS(dibz), (n.) 2. a thick, sweet syrup made in countries of the East, especially the Middle East, from grape juice or dates. [Arabic "debs"]--World Book Dictionary, 1976.
It was actually yesterday, but you know how these calendars work. Things to do today: 1) ponder the error of your ways; 2) take a moment to dance a little; 3) have a snack; 4) enjoy a makeover (if applicable); 5) be specific when describing the ruckus. 6) Don’t forget about me.
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Enchiridion 12: Peace Of Mind; or, "If you would improve" (part 1)
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"If you would improve, lay aside such reasonings as these: 'If I neglect my affairs, I shall not have a maintenance; if I do not punish my servant, he will be good for nothing.' For it were better to die of hunger, exempt from grief and fear, than to live in affluence with perturbation; and it is better that your servant should be bad than you unhappy.
Begin therefore with little things. Is a little oil spilled or a little wine stolen? Say to yourself, 'This is the price paid for peace and tranquillity; and nothing is to be had for nothing.' And when you call your servant, consider that it is possible he may not come at your call; or, if he does, that he may not do what you wish. But it is not at all desirable for him, and very undesirable for you, that it should be in his power to cause you any disturbance." (Epictetus, Enchiridion 11)
They got it pretty close: peace of mind does not depend on circumstances or other people. So, are you happy? Content? Do you have peace of mind? The question was not, "how's it going?" because it can be going not-so-well and one can still have peace of mind.
Today's thoughts are rich with illustrations but can be easily lost or confused due to our temporal and cultural separation. Nevertheless, the principle is timeless.
"If you would improve, lay aside such reasonings as these . . ."
Want to be better off? Then let go of trying to micromanage the world. It won't fall apart if you release your grip. Matter of fact, the world doesn't even know you are there. So stop making difficulty and find your happiness in something greater. You won't find peace of mind in your stuff nor will you find it in others.
If you've ever expected perfection out of someone, what was the end result? Should you say, "they proved to be a disappointment," then know your perspective was off. Should you say, "my expectation was too high because I fall short too," then you are improving.
Consider also the person who is insistent about their rights. Where is their happiness? If you have an attitude of entitlement, then everything will go wrong for you and there will never be contentment.
"Begin therefore with little things."
Start small. Why? Because bigger things are just too much! Epictetus gets intensely personal because he shows how easy the wrong perspective destroys peace of mind.
Having raised children, messes are bound to happen. Problem is, there were times when it was impossible to tell who made the mess. So I have a choice: walk into the room, look around and and shout, "Who did this?" blow my stack, get angry and terrify the children until I got an answer. Or I could walk in, look around and say, "Well, that happened," maintain my composure and deal with it. What happened was, you got stuff, it gets messy. Clean it up.
Everything costs something. You buy stuff and stuff makes clutter. Truthfully, before learning any of this, I often took the first choice because (upon reflection) my time and energy must now be interrupted to cleaning up a mess not my own--I've been "put out." So I got upset. To make matters worse, one child would blame another just to keep from being punished, so when the punishment reigned down on another, the true perpetrator was both relieved and delighted. All because I had the wrong perspective.
Going a step further, think about things you buy--what are you after? Perfection. But what you get is a product. And that product will most likely fail before it's warranty runs out. And that warranty should be the first sign that what you buy is not really what you want. So if you are willing to shell out the dollars to get it, be willing to let it go in the future. Besides, when you die, you can't take it with you.
CONCLUSION
The only thing that destroys peace of mind is that to which you grant permission. Like the band sang: "Now you're climbin' to the top of the company ladder Hope it doesn't take too long Can'tcha you see there'll come a day when it won't matter? Come a day when you'll be gone, whoa
I understand about indecision But I don't care if I get behind People livin' in competition All I want is to have my peace of mind."
July 2004 I went to Kenya, Africa to speak in two Pastor’s Conferences on the subject of Man, Sin and Salvation. At the end of each day I left just over an hour for questions (half the time were questions touching the subject of my lectures, and the other half for “open questions”; that is, people could ask anything). For the next few weeks, I will be sharing the questions that were asked of me, and my answers—and believe me when I say these people really know how to think! Question from Kenya #1: “Men and women who saw God in the Bible: Why did they not all die?” [“ But He said, ‘You cannot see My face, for no man can see Me and live! ’” (Exodus 33:20) was the basis of the student’s question]. Answer: First, consider those who did see God—how did they respond when they saw Him? They were instantly aware of their sinfulness, and God’s holiness and righteousness (to name a few. And notice also that each responded in an attitude of worship, bowing down): Abraham built altars, wors
“My God, where is that ancient heat towards thee, Wherewith whole shoals of martyrs once did burn, Besides their other flames? Doth poetry Wear Venus' livery? only serve her turn? Why are not sonnets made of thee? and lays Upon thine altar burnt? Cannot thy love Heighten a spirit to sound out thy praise As well as any she? Cannot thy Dove Outstrip their Cupid easily in flight? Or, since thy ways are deep, and still the fame, Will not a verse run smooth that bears thy name! Why doth that fire, which by thy power and might Each breast does feel, no braver fuel choose Than that, which one day, worms may chance refuse. Sure Lord, there is enough in thee to dry Oceans of ink; for, as the Deluge did Cover the earth, so doth thy Majesty: Each cloud distills thy praise, and doth forbid Poets to turn it to another use. Roses and lilies speak thee; and to make A pair of cheeks of them, is thy abuse Why should I women's eyes for crystal take? Such poor invention burns in their low mind Wh
John Locke published his Treatise on Civil Government in 1689, a work influential to the development of our Declaration of Independence. The focus of this reading is, “An Essay Concerning the True Original Extent and End of Civil Government.” Locke announces that consent to live by the constitutional laws of government is rooted in the fact that all men are created equal. No one is born one over or better than another, but we actually owe one another, our greatest debt being love for others before ourselves. In the so-called “state of nature”, anyone choosing to break the smallest of laws declares himself to be above all law and others; therefore, the lawbreaker deserves judgment, even punishment, by those who keep the law. “The state of war” is “the right to destroy that which threatens me with destruction.” Slavery, says Locke, is a state of war; however, if one party consents to be obedient to another with limited power, then there is government. Of all governmental powers, suprem