Grief

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Sometimes the news comes quick. Sometimes the news comes slow. No matter how or when it comes, grief travels in the wake of the news. Grief is heavy, weighty, a burden, especially when it involves someone deeply loved. Grief is not meant to be carried alone. It’s too heavy and may last a while—and that’s ok. That’s what family and friends are for, to share the load. Jesus stood outside the tomb of his friend and wept but He did not weep alone. It was a deep, human moment. “ Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted ” (Matt 5:4). If anyone knows how we feel in grief, it’s Him. But His grief did not linger long, as at the mention of his name, Lazarus came forth. We are not meant to dwell in grief, but should leave room enough for it. Let it run its course. Like the song says, “ Every Storm Runs Out Of Rain .” Another song says, “ The storm We will dance as it breaks The storm It will give as it takes And all of our pain is washed away Don't cry or be afraid Some things...

You Don't Have One

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“We have the power to hold no opinion about a thing and to not let it upset our state of mind – for things have no natural power to shape our judgments.” (Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 6.52)

Think for a moment about everything you don't know. 
Go ahead. I'll wait. 

What is your opinion about those things you don't know? How do you feel? 
You don't have an opinion because you don't know what you don't know--right? 

Ok, think for a moment about something that might upset you. Can you name it? Say what it is? 
  • Did someone say something behind your back? 
    • What did they say? 
    • Did you hear it? 
    • Do you even know for a fact that anyone said anything about you at all? 
    • Was it derogatory or nice? 
    • Still don't know? Then why upset? 
So why get upset about something we know nothing about? 
  • That guy that cut you off on the way to work this morning--why did he do it? 
    • To be rude because he saw YOU coming down the road and thought you needed a driving lesson? (That's selfish)
    • He woke up late and is still rubbing the sleep out of his eyes?
    • He was simply not paying attention? 
    • He had a bad night over a sick kid or a family fight and is not paying attention? 
    • He's hung over? 
    • His opinion was there was enough room to pull out? 
    • Still don't know? Then why upset? 
Here's another way to look at it: 
  • if something does not exist, what power does it have for one to create an opinion about it? 
  • if something is irrelevant, why does it bother us? 
Waste no more time and/or energy on things that don't matter.

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